Colleen

Define your destiny with the past and present

Feb 5 • Opinion • 470

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“When one door closes, another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us,” Alexander Graham Bell said.

Personally, this statement couldn’t be truer.

It’s hard to let new things or people in, for me at least. I don’t adjust easily to change because it’s not what I’m used to, obviously. I feel as if I would have to have a whole new routine.

When I decide I need to get away from something or to move on, it takes a fight in order to do so.

We go through the motions of life – sometimes we’re living and sometimes we might not be living on the edge – but we all must take a journey at some point because closing old doors is essential.

Sure, we might go through denial then sadness followed by anger, but as long as you have a support system anything is possible. The past – especially if it’s negative – should not define who you are today.

Once you reach a breakthrough, you will be able to see how the past was holding you back.

Sometimes the doors slam behind us and knock us on our butt, but other times we’re welcomed gracefully through a new door.

On the bright side, when a door closes, it is telling us that we have learned what we needed to from a person or situation and that something new will unfold. Whether it will be positive or negative will be determined later.

It is crucial to stay humble toward the old doors that closed rather than living with regret and fear because new opportunities follow.

Doorways represent such a beautiful metaphor indicating a new adventure. It is a passage that captures a moment – good or bad – and expands the way we view life.

I’ll admit, it’s hard to not look back at closed doors because we get attached to the old and familiar and we fear the new and unknown – we want to protect ourselves from pain.

Eventually, you’ll believe and hopefully trust that everything happens for a reason and disappointment won’t be so hard to handle.

No one knows what a new door will bring, but you can get a sense of what you would like to happen. Plan a preferred future and decide on who you want to be, not what you want to be doing. You must be honest with yourself and, of course, realistic.

You should never sell yourself short, so that means don’t settle for anything mediocre. I know too many people who settle for what is easy rather than what is different, creative and the best of the best.

You are the answer to your destiny. What’s stopping you?

I know no one will stop me from determining where I will be next or what I will be doing.

 

COLLEEN LANGHAM

langham001@knights.gannon.edu

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